We have a 12 yo, and we were just talking about consent with him and came across this great video that talks about consenting for sex using the metaphor of making a cup of tea.  It is truly a great quick video- well worth the watch (see below). Warning:  there are a couple of swears at the beginning, still well worth it! It also got me thinking though, how the same concept also applies to relationships. In addition to thinking of it as a metaphor for sex, it is also about adv

How come something as basic as rejection, isolation and exclusion can be so powerful in controlling human behaviour? Because we evolved to be a SOCIAL SPECIES, we NEED a feeling of belonging in the same way we need food and water for survival. In the past 20 yrs the research world has exploded with evidence showing there is actually “survival of the nurtured”. People with healthy (Secure) attachment styles, stemming from having caregivers who they felt were emotionally and ph