What we strive for in life is always the same, but how we learn to get it is variable and even changes throughout our lifetime. Understand this, and learn what it takes to win at the game of life! Check out our new video here: Share this: Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window) Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window) Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window) Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new

People want to get better, but they don’t want to feel uncomfortable or awkward. Distress and discomfort get a bad wrap. We are taught to avoid it at all costs, yet there is no growth without discomfort. The path to wellness requires a willingness to be uncomfortable. There is just no way around it. We don’t have to like it, but we must accept it. Use the Fire Alarm Analogy to change your relationship with distress. Fire Alarm Analogy When a fire alarm goes off, it is invitin

The most common way we harm ourselves is by PRETENDING it isn’t a big deal. We minimize how hurt or angry we are, pretend smoking or drinking just this time won’t make a huge difference, or having that last piece of cake,  and then distract ourselves to keep it all at bay. We use distracting ourselves to help us pretend. It takes the edge off whatever feeling or insight we don’t feel ready to sit with. We distract ourselves by eating, watching NETFLIX, spending hours on socia

As many of you know I am an efficiency junkie! I want to find the things that have the biggest pay off for the least amount of effort. My gift to you today is sharing 3 of greatest determinants on our mental health … any one of these can be especially helpful when we are feeling stuck and down. They are also great for maintaining our wellbeing. So choose one to start today, or if you are really keen, try all 3 and see what happens! EXERCISE – do some! (ie. go for a walk, do c

Three simple but not easy questions can help you with this. Are you prepared to take the good and the bad? Are you willing to change the stories you have about yourself? Are you ready to risk failure and looking like a fool in order to find out who you are now? Let me explain… TAKING THE GOOD WITH THE BAD One of the biggest things that holds us back is when we have  mixed feelings towards others. It comes down to the fact that we don’t want to be mad at the people we care abo

When I ask what they mean, they usually explain that while they were consciously using what they learned, they felt better, but when they stopped using what they learned, they got worse again. This is like saying I tried eating healthy and exercising, it “helped for a while but didn’t work”, because they went back to poor eating and not exercising – and began feeling crummy again. Mental health is just like physical health. We feel better within 2-5 days of starting to exerci