Why is it that doing something that we know will be good for us is so hard to do and can feel so terrible? It is the same reason people often tap in and out of therapy, change is hard and here is why… The first part of change is DISTRESS. We become aware there is a need for change through negative feedback from our bodies (we get tired, sore, anxious, depressed, lethargic, sick etc) Imagine that you are standing in the kitchen and your hand is on the stove, on a hot element.

We like certainty! We create absolutes out of uncertainty all the time! We turn things that are not definitive at all, like marriage, religion, politics, right and wrong, and we make them into absolutes! We insist that when WE say “I do” it will be forever, even though the divorce rate is over 50%. We have holy wars because we are so certain OUR religious beliefs are the RIGHT ones … the problem, is the other side is equally convinced theirs are too! We talk about what is “ri

Here are our Awesome Videos of the Month for October… Enjoy! The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown A phenomenal talk about connecting, courage and life. Veterans of ILM would have seen this one before. 2. The Lethality of Loneliness In 18 min, it nicely summarizes the importance of connection and how it impacts our physical as well as our emotional health and why 3. Why We Laugh by Sophie Scott This entertaining 18 min video highlights how we are a social species who are

Here is a 5 min video summary about how and why we form Survival maps. see if you can see yourself in any of the descriptions. We have also added a RESOURCES page, where we will be uploading worksheets, handouts, and more in the coming weeks. So make sure you check back often and that is also where you can find the Facing the Past exercise I talk about in the video. Feel free to use these resources for yourselves or in your work. NOTE: When something happens that we KNOW we d