Are we there yet?
When the two-by-four fairy visits, I am generally impatient and end up spending time focusing on the fact that I don’t want the reality I have been dealt and that it is not fair!
I can also freely share that when the people in my life suggest or invite me to “lean into” the feelings at that point, I outwardly smile, but internally I am saying “screw off” and giving myself very good reasons to basically stay stuck.
This goes on until I eventually become so
I coach people how to do this for a living, I live it in my own life, coach my kids, friends and family to do this, yet I still go through this process. I still find myself asking “Are we there yet?”. So when do we get to be there? The magical place where life is calm, and once we have done the work, we are done and it is smooth sailing onwards.
We are never there! All the cheesy quotes about “Life is about the journey not the destination” turn out to be true. I don’t help people be happy all the time, that isn’t normal and probably not even healthy, that just isn’t how the human condition works. The idea is for us to learn to LIVE and THRIVE, instead of survive and react, regardless of our current or past circumstances.
No matter who we are, life goes up and down until the day we die. It
Our peaks are where we re-fuel. When we allow ourselves to refuel, and accept that there will be valleys,
Life is about LIVING, and being COMFORTABLE in our own skin, no matter what thoughts, feelings, memories show up, or what external stressors arise- that is the end game!
Watch this 5 min video about the difference between kids and adults answering a single question about being comfortable with their bodies…