I constantly misplace my sunglasses. I leave them places ALL the time, they are scratched because I just throw them in my purse and I wear them even when they are bent.
Quick- how much do you think I value them? (Rate from 1-5, 1= not at all, 5= a lot)
Just based on that 1 sentence description about how I treat my sunglasses, you were able to get a sense of how important and valuable my sunglasses are to me.
Quick- how careful would you be with them if you found them after seeing me treat them that way? (Rate from 1-5, 1= not careful at all, 5= very careful)
We use the same process to communicate TO OURSELVES and OTHERS how important we are.
What are YOU communicating to yourself and others?
Answer the following questions using a 1-5 rating scale: 1 = not at all, 5 = almost all the time.
1. I take care of my physical health (ie. get enough sleep, making time for exercise, eat healthy)
1 — 2 — 3 — 4 — 5
2. I speak kindly TO myself and ABOUT myself to others
1 — 2 — 3 — 4 — 5
3. I accept and validate my feelings about things, and trust my gut when needed
1 — 2 — 3 — 4 — 5
4. I share my opinions about things
1 — 2 — 3 — 4 — 5
5. I ask for what I want and need in relationships and stand up for myself, even if it means a possible confrontation
1 — 2 — 3 — 4 — 5
So how are you treating yourself and how well are you teaching others to treat you?
In what areas did you do well? Pat yourself in the back for those.
In what ways do you want to improve? Consider setting a SMART goal about these and remember to take it as FEEDBACK vs EVALUATION.
See you next week!