In our new Youtube video, understand why we don’t change even though we know better. The Hand On The Stove analogy helps you feel normal, the Fire Alarm metaphor shifts your relationship with stress and the 3C’s teach us how to respond in order to minimize suffering and maximize happiness. Connect with us on any of our social media and let us know what you think? Share this: Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window) Click
The truth is, although it is not impossible to change our lives alone, it is significantly less likely to be successful and is far more likely to be associated with suffering when we try to do it on our own. You see, because we are such an inherently social species, our success or failure is very dependent on who we surround ourselves with. Several people, including Tony Robins, have talked about how the 5 people we spend the most time with (whether we like them or not, wheth
Why is it that doing something that we know will be good for us is so hard to do and can feel so terrible? It is the same reason people often tap in and out of therapy,
change is hard and here is why… The first part of change is DISTRESS. We become aware there is a need for change through negative feedback from our bodies (we get tired, sore, anxious, depressed, lethargic, sick etc) Imagine that you are standing in the kitchen and your hand is on the stove, on a hot element.
Have you ever had that kind of relationship with something? Someone? You really LOVE one part of them and DESPISE the other. Perhaps it is that you hate being overweight, but you LOVE the comfort and taste of food. Maybe it is that you really LOVE your partner, but can’t reconcile staying when they keep cheating, or intimidating you. For some it is loving the momentary calm that comes from avoidance when we drink or smoke a joint, but hating the consequences. How have YOU han
Being a patient in the Canadian mental health system right now can be frustrating. It begins with the belief that we are always supposed to be happy, apparently pretty much all the time. When we ask someone how they are, if they answer “Ok”, we often respond with a concerned “What’s WRONG? Why just ok?”. Even when really bad things happen to people, we have a tendency in our culture to say things like “look at the bright side”. The DEFICIT model of mental health plays a signi